Love & Friendship

Chatted with kenji over the phone for almost 2 hours. Had very nice feeling talking to someone you love about your ambitions, your goals, your relationship, friendship, and planning for the future.

Guess many things weigh me down. Kenji says if I am pregnant I will surely have pre and post natal blues..... we'll see..... And kenji promised to sweep me off my feet next year with his "ROMANTIC" ways...... we'll see again.....

Kenji is really an unpredictable person..... wish he can be more predictable, more romantic, more like a BF rather than 10year old hubby (老夫老妻). But I love you darling and I love you more today cos of the things you said....

We talked about friendship and I told him a dream I had about 1 of his friends. This friend used to take kenji's kindness as his weakness and thinks that it is rite to take advantage of kenji and take for granted his kindness will always be there.......

Wrong move. We can be nice and kind but we dun condone taking for granted of and taking advantage of people. Of cos this kind of people displaying such attitude is normally pampered and spoilt by us ourselves cos we allow them to do such things to us so often that we are actually the ones in the wrong for abetting them to do so.....

But things tat shouldn't be, shouldn't be there in the 1st place. We are trying to come to terms and acknowledge that we are in the wrong, we should not pamper, we should not spoil, we should not be soft hearted and give in, we should not allow such things to happen.

Being appreciated is an issue that these people should learn. They shouldn't think that nice people can be treated like fools and CAN be treated like silly clowns to be taken for granted. Where friendship is concerned, appreciating the value of the friend given to you is priceless.... when a friend adds value to your life, dun add shit into their lives and expect them to clean up after you.

Your friend doesn't deserve such shit no matter wat...... People who give shit need to learn that YOU DO NOT GIVE SHIT TO YOUR FRIENDS and that you should clean up your act and that you should put down your pride and admit your problem. Unfortunately, not many people willing to lower their pride, or say sorry or reflect or improve things. Some dun even think they are in the wrong....

So these kind of people, best thing is to let them be, because its up to them to change and not us interfering cos we cant change them..... They have to learn that friendship and the journey in life requires other people and not only they are the centre of attention and other people are as important as they are - they are not the most important ones.....

PS: Do unto others what you wan others to do unto you.... If you give shit to people and take people for granted, you will get same from them. If you treat others properly, they will return the favour.... If I am important, I'll hear from you....