The Flame in you & me....

Yesterday 081207 TFT had an event at Jumbo @ Serangoon Gardens. I'm waiting for more pics to be up on the TFT webby before I can share with you on the FOOD and the fun things we did.

Been exposed to different types of emotions since the morning. Saw the blogs of some of my friends, read their happiness flowing thru their blog entries on happy occasions with their beloved ones and empathise with the sorrowful entries seeking for consolation for their empty hearts, grieving souls and broken spirits.

In the past, I used to attach myself very closely to the emotions of those around me. I feel together with them. And their every emotion is reflected on me and my emotions revolve around them. I get involved deeply and get hurt deeply too.

Its not that I do not care now. But there are many things I cannot do. I cannot live their life for them, or with them, unless I am really a part of them, unless I love them and they love me too. I can only offer a listening ear, maybe a shoulder to lean on, maybe some loving advice and suggestions, maybe a hug or 2, maybe some tissues.....

Maybe thru years of scarring, will you then learn the hurt and detach yourself from stuff that could hurt you. I know clearly the pain of living when the one you loved so much is not with you, not the one you are able to spend your remaining days with, not the one who chose you, not the one to be by your side when you needed them the most, not the one ultimately.....

Saying, doing and escaping from the reality are totally different things. You can say something, you can do something to prove wat you jus said, but you can never lie to yourself that you escaped reality.

Some people know of their fate before they jump into something, but they still jump into it because there is always a hope that things would be wat you hoped. Everyone of us carry a torch of hope inside us and it can never be extinguished unless its the person who lit the flame. And the person who lit the flame is normally not the person whom you hoped for, the person IS YOU.

You chose to lit the flame, you chose to allow this flame to burn inside you, you chose to hold this torch for that someone and ignore the other flames buring around you, because YOU CHOSE IT. But you forgot that the fire, the flame, the passion, the LOVE, the emotions, everything - can only burn bigger and turn into a huge furnace, when 2 flames are put together.

You can choose to burn alone, and burn yourself out by holding on. You can choose to foolishly burn yourself out for someone who doesn't appreciate you, and may never put their flame together with yours for a miracle cure for your longing HOPE. And you can also choose to burn for someone else.

Of cos the fire will definately leave a burnt mark - which flame doesn't leave a burnt mark? Which flame doesn't hurt when you touch it? Which flame doesn't scar you?

Extinguishing this one flame, will hiss with pain when the water is poured over it to put it out. The stubborn ones will re-ignite like the magic candles, and may only be put out when the catalyst creating the flame is truly extinguished - in this case, the magic wick or the hot and burning coals or charcoal or wood conducting the fire.....

Extinguishing the flame hurts as no one wan to be missing the warmth of the fire and no one wan to feel cold. But there are still many fires to be lit. There are still the flames of the ones who appreciate you, the flames of your good friends by your side..... never give the cold shoulder or neglect the flame of the ones burning FOR you. Cos as I mentioned, the flames burning alone, will extinguish when 2 flames are not burning together and they die out when you neglect them.

I hope one day, You will be able to look back at this flame that you extinguished and rely on the good memories this flame brought you and how you tended to the fire that it burned with such great passion and love from your side, and smile, because you know you did your best but the one you burned for, did not appreciate you enough to add their flame to yours.

PS: Suddenly I feel so full of "INK" Haha...... My flame is still burning....... Wat about you - the ones I love and the ones who love me? Will you add your flame to mine so that we can keep burning with passion, burning with friendship, burning with everything that you have got till the end of our days? Even though I do not speak and you dun hear from me often, but I do hope that you know, You are on my mind and in my heart every moment of my days and my days are happy because you are happy..... Who are you burning for? Am I one of them?